How to stop getting ghosted


Growing up, we’re trained to ask first.

Raise your hand before speaking.
Ask to go to the bathroom.
Wait for approval to go to recess.
Get graded. Get ranked. Get accepted. Get approved.

Over time, this doesn’t just teach order — it teaches obedience.

It trains you to wait.
To defer.
To believe someone else needs to validate your ideas before they’re real.

That conditioning works in school.

It punishes you in the real world — especially if you want to be a changemaker or founder.

But FIRST

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Permission Is a Trap

One of the most common patterns we see with ambitious teens:

You plan everything perfectly.
You research.
You build a deck.
You reach out politely.

You ask mentors, potential customers, investors, accelerators:
“Is this a good idea?”
“Can I get your feedback?”
“Do you think I should start?”

And then… silence.

Crickets. Ghosted. No replies.

It feels confusing. You did everything “right.”
So why does no one care?

Here’s the uncomfortable truth:

No one gives a damn about your idea until there’s already result.

Not passion.
Not polish.
Not permission.

Result.

What People Actually Respond To

In the real world, access doesn’t come from approval.
It comes from momentum.

Momentum looks like:

  • Someone paying you (even a little)
  • A scrappy prototype people are already using
  • Proof that you acted before anyone told you to

This is why founders who “break the rules” get attention.

They didn’t ask.
They built.
They shipped.
They sold.

Then the world caught up.

“But I Don’t Have Capital, Connections, or Resources”

Good.
Neither did most great founders.

Scarcity isn’t a weakness — it’s a filter.

Your intellect shows up when resources don’t.

One of the strongest indicators of a great founder is this:

Can you generate result with almost nothing?

And the answer is yes:
A micro-test.

Start Smaller Than Your Ego Wants

You don’t need permission to:

  • DM 20 people with a problem you’re curious about
  • Pre-sell something before it exists
  • Run a one-week experiment
  • Build a rough version that solves one tiny pain

Micro-tests give you feedback fast.
They cost little.
They teach you more than months of “planning.”

Paradoxically, resources flow to those who least seek them.

Because builders who move first prove they don’t need saving.

Do This Instead

Stop applying to things to get permission.

Start asking:
“What’s the smallest version I can test today?”
“How can I take this further without permission?”
“What would signal look like if this worked?”

Do the hard stuff.
Build as much as you can.
Take it as far as you can on your own.

Eventually, people won’t ignore you —
not because you asked nicely,
but because you showed them something real.

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